Hi there, It has been sometime sinceI've visited this page. it is my intention to write here on a weekly basis, so stay tuned please.
Today's topic is family wounding, anyone out there able to relate. It sems to me that here is where we learn our Value, if we were failed here, we may find ourselves feeling unappreciated, dismised and altogether not Valuable to others and feeling low swnsw of self worth as a result. We go forth in life experiencing a lot of disappointment and believing it is our fault or certainly, "there is surely something Wrong with me ". We may feel ashamed that we are not good enough, after all, this is what those closest to us are demonstrating. You are not alone, although it may feel this way. There may be some comfort in knowing you aren't the only one, but this comfort is not enough to heal ourselves.
We all want to belong, it is natural and healthy to reach out to others, to try and find validation in someone outside of ourselves. Yet, if you are an adult, that validation may come with lots of hard work, or it may not come easily, because we are most likely reaching out from the wounded self, and we may end up with more neglect and shaming.
The Good News is we can turn inward to the vast resource that is our true home, our true Self. This might not feel encouraging at first but as we develop the inner, true Self, this Self will never let us down, honestly. There is the hump of learning to turn inward rather than the learned turning outward. This will take practice, a practice that is well worth it and will keep on giving, I promise.
Remember to breath from your Heart center,
In reading, Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind, by Shunryu Suzuki, I was presented with another metaphor for stability. He teaches that whatever is going on in our foreground, there is a solid mountain and a clear sky in the background that is constant. What we experience in front of us, or what we experience as all around us and inside of us too, may be beautiful or not so beautiful. It will change in some amount of time, it always does. We can rest assured that whatever is happening, there is still a solid environment that is constant and consistent, a true stability in which we can trust. The understanding I have come to accept is what Suzuki, offers is true; and yet as humans in this human existence, I believe we also need to establish a solid foundation beneath our feet. A sense of safety and security from which to feel strong, solid and secure. A way that we can feel anchored inorder to explore, expand, grow and heal;so that we may become resilient. It is from this resiliency we are able to step off into our lives fully.Many of us were not provided the nurturance, support, protection or love needed in our early lives as we developed; and perhaps even more tragic is the absence of teachings or support through our many levels of society. We now are required to take up this journey of awareness and healing on our own. This can seem arduous at best or even impossible. I strongly believe that there is always a solution available to us and that healing is absolutely possible. There is a greatness in all of us. When we can accept this transformation as a gift to ourselves rather than a burden; life can become satisfying and even Joy-Full.Take some time today for nurture ~ to honor your essential Self. Check in with yourself ~ pause ~ notice the quality of your breath ~ allow your mind to slow down ~ choose to experience a moment of Relaxation!6-19-23
I trust that I find you in a moment of awareness. Life has a way of challenging us, especially when we really don't want to be challenged. Óur awareness can help us recognize that we have the capacity to meet our lives challenges. Take a moment to be still and quiet. We may feel urgency to act, yet calm and clarity can be present when we are still enough to understand our perceptions and how we might shift them. Take a moment to breathe in consciously from your heart center, a little slower and deeper. Allow yourself to receive what you are needing. Namaste