We can ask ourselves honestly:
How well is my life going?

Am I fulfilled in work and my relationships?
Do I value and take good care of myself ?  Again, do not go into judgment, healing is calling to you!
As you may know, our heart is the first organ to develop and begin beating.  Our heart is our primary intelligence and gathers more information than our brains.  Unfortunately, due to these early environmental learnings, (in an attempt to protect us, it is all about survival), our minds begin to override our hearts deeper knowing.
As you learn to love and accept ourselves; you will experience more peace and joy in our lives !  

As infants and children, we are Perfect!  We were born into this world beautiful, innocent and precious. 

So if this is true, why all the suffering and stuckness?  Well, many of us did not receive all the love and acceptance, the security and safety that we needed as children.  Many of us grew up with an experience of less than; it's like a filter that reads, "I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough, I have the wrong body, the wrong color," it goes on and on.

Our physiology develops a pattern, and psychologically, we adopt these messages as truth, they are our earliest teachings. These learnings become our beliefs even when they couldn"t be further from the truth!  With our biology and these untruths as our undercurrent, we go forward in life attracting what we believe and behave accordingly.  This is not to blame or shame our parents.  And most importantly, to release ourselves from shame and blame! One of my dearest early inspirators, Louise Hay, put it this way, "We are all just victims of victims."  
So we need not get stuck in blame, but we do need to assess the damage.  

 

Cia A. Robles

How can you love, 
If you are not there?
      Thich Nhat Hanh

Evidenced Based Heart and Neuroscience informed Therapy

Welcome, I'm so glad you are here, You are Perfect !